Ever seen the movie ( he's not that into you )/?
it was a bestseller too , it talks about relationships between men and women through surveing into lives of many couples in the movie .. anyway i'm not talkin about the movie , i'm talkin about same concept .. when you are in a relationship and you feel it doesn't satisfy your needs .. first you notice the changes but you give the other party many excuses like he / she might be tired , has problems , stressed , maybe it's your fault in a way , you refuse to think it's perminent and you don't wanna make it an issue , and sometimes you think you are wrong and everything is fine .
Second , this phase continues and you stop tmaking excuses bec simply you realize it's beyond that ( the recognition phase) , in this phase you begin to name things by its true names , ignorance, insensitivity, intolerance .. you reach to a point where you face yourself , it's real and a fact , there's something wrong !
Third . you begin to react , you still in denial but you find some reaction to do , maybe things get improved maybe you can mend it , there must be a chance to fix it ( the trying phase ).. this phase might take quite some time .
Fourth ... the phase of submission , you submit to the idea that things are coming to an end and you should deal with facts .. this phase is severe and depends entirely on your self strength and how much you can handle separation .
Fifth .. the withdrawal phase , severe and hard and loooooong , might end by drastic change in the way you act and the way you feel about everything in life ... then comes the last phase ...
The Tolerance Phase .... you begin to continue life
